Some couples thoroughly enjoy watching sporting events together. They buy season tickets, they spend all day tailgating, and they look like the team mascot just hurled all over them. You know the type. But your girl just doesn’t care about sports. And even though you really do enjoy hanging out with the guys, you’re secretly a little jealous that you can’t share this passion with the one you love. Oh, well. That’s just the way it is, right? Not necessarily…
Here are four suggestions from a couldn’t-care-less-about-sports wife that just might help you get your wife or girlfriend excited about the next big game.
Make it into a social event
Personally, I love having people over. It motivates me to finally clean the house, I enjoy planning a menu and preparing food for guests, and it’s nice to take some time out from a busy schedule to catch up with friends I don’t often see. And even if I don’t care about the game on TV, I’ll be excited for a party or gathering that’s centered around sports if I have these other things to look forward to.
If you need to go out to watch an event – to the ballpark, stadium, or even a sports bar – invite another couple to join you, especially one where the wife is also just along for the ride. That way, the women can chat with each other and won’t keep interrupting the game to make conversation with you. You know, one of my favorite Saturday evening activities has become going to Buffalo Wild Wings with my husband and some friends of ours to watch mixed martial arts. Well, the guys watch the fights while we play cards and board games. But everyone has a great time!
Help her dress the part
What woman wouldn’t like a new outfit, especially one that’s kind of like a costume she can only wear on special occasions? Yep, buy her a jersey for your favorite team, and watch her light up as she gets ready to go to the game or sports-centered gathering. Be sure to praise her, too, because women never tire of hearing how good they look!
Make your plans with her in mind
If you’re heading downtown for a game, why not make the prospect more appealing to your wife or girlfriend by treating her to a nice dinner beforehand or afterwards at that new restaurant she’s been wanting to check out? Or if you’d like her to join you for an out-of-town game, make sure there’s something for her to look forward to there as well. For example, my husband wants to drive four plus hours to see his St. Louis Rams play in Detroit this fall, but we’re also planning to hit Cedar Point amusement park on our way the day before. For me, that’s the real destination, and it makes the long trip worthwhile.
Alternatively, consider bartering activities with your wife or girlfriend. I’d be thrilled to attend a game with my husband if it meant he’d come – without complaining – to see a musical with me. And I’d gladly take a weekend road trip to see his favorite team in exchange for a backpacking trip in the Smoky Mountains or a short stay at a quiet bed and breakfast.
Tell her about the players, not the sport
If your wife or girlfriend asks a lot of questions about specific rules of the sport or details of the game, by all means tell her what she wants to know! But many women are more interested in the individual players and their personal stories than the game itself. So try telling your girl something about the athletes that she’ll find interesting or memorable. Which players attended her alma mater? Which come from her home town or state? Which had to overcome major obstacles to get to the point they’re at now? Which support causes or charities she’s also passionate about? Knowing these kinds of things will help her see the players as real people, and she’ll be much more excited to watch them perform when she knows a little more about their lives off the field.